In order to make our dreams a reality it is so important to take that first step no matter how challenging it may seem. For many of us the first step is the most difficult and often the one we never take. Our dreams become fairytales instead of our reality.
Those dreams that get shelved, the goals that are never completed or the targets left undone are the ones that we either don’t really want or sometimes the ones that we secretly want the most but are too afraid to go after. Sound confusing?
With dreams, goals or targets there are those that we know are attainable, those that we can see actually happening and those that seem so far away or too out of our reach due to circumstance, knowledge base, finances or time that we let them fade into the background or disappear forever.
The truth is, any dream, goal or target is achievable. We just have to find the right path and in order to do so, it is important to be aware of what it is we really want. It’s about being committed to what we want and recognising the value that we place on the goals that we have.
Do you really want to be a millionaire? Do you really want to have blond hair? If yes, what do these things give you? How do they make you feel? What happens if you don’t achieve them?
When looking at any dream, goal or target it is essential that you look closely at it, not just what you need to do to get it or what you need to give up for it but (I know, I’m using the “but” word) what it represents to you? How will achieving this goal make you feel? How will you be able to tell when you’ve achieved it?
Due to my personality time (I’m a strong S with some I and C in the DISC profiling system), security is a high priority for me and an important goal. Now the word security can and does imply many things. In the world of work, it meant having my own space, including desk / office and knowing where I was going and how I fit into the development of the company that I worked for…so setting up Dragonfly Pathways, was me stepping out of my comfort zone and giving up my ‘security’ for a dream.
What I realised was, that although I had two seemingly conflicting goals, wanting to be my own boss and having the security of a regular pay cheque, I needed to really look at what I wanted to achieve, what was important to me and essential to my happiness and well being. My goals could have cancelled each other out and I could have stayed in my job.
While developing my coaching skills and working with other coaches in the UK, I realised that these goals, leaving the safety and security of full time employment for the “unknown world” and being my own boss needn’t be on opposing sides. I simply had to be honest with myself and look at what I really wanted and see if my goals lined up with each other. And in truth, they did. I also became aware that my need to be my own boss and set my own deadlines was more important than that initial need for my ‘own space’ – I did get an office space very quickly though….
Are there dreams that you want to turn into reality? Are there things that you want to change yet haven’t been able to? What’s holding you back?
Next week, time and date to be confirmed I will be offering one reader the chance to have a series of 30 minute coaching sessions for free…for those interested please contact us at info@dragonflypathways.com
The reader will be chosen at random.
Have a great and productive week and remember, keep dreaming!!
Dragonfly Coaching 